Introduction to My Journey with ED
My name is Ryan , and I am 66 years old. For the past six months, I’ve been in a relationship with someone wonderful. However, my path hasn’t been without challenges—chief among them being erectile dysfunction, a condition I’ve been grappling with for three to four years. Its onset is intertwined with my diagnosis of type 2 diabetes. Initially, I was oblivious to the connection, perplexed by the sudden decline in what had always been a vibrant and fulfilling intimate life.
Despite trying medications like Viagra and Cialis, my condition deteriorated. At some point, resignation took hold. Penetrative intimacy became a memory, and I accepted this as my new normal. It wasn’t until a conversation with my GP and subsequent consultations with specialists that I grasped ED as a byproduct of diabetes. These discussions also included my then-wife, as I was deeply concerned about the implications for our relationship.
Exploring Penile Implants
The Treatment Journey
I began with Viagra and later transitioned to Cialis, gradually increasing the dosages to maintain effectiveness. Over time, even these measures proved futile. After a period of inaction, I resorted to penile injections, but the progression of my condition rendered them ineffective as well.
Discovering Implants
I stumbled upon the concept of penile implants through diabetic forums, where individuals shared their experiences. Learning that a significant percentage of diabetics encounter ED illuminated my situation. This discovery planted the seed of hope and introduced me to the idea of surgical solutions.
Initial Reactions
The notion of such a procedure intrigued me. After consulting a urologist, I rapidly concluded that this option was worth pursuing. Though the treatment was undeniably radical, testimonials from others reassured me of its efficacy. The decision, albeit weighty, felt like the logical conclusion to my search for a solution.
The Surgery Decision
Opting for surgery didn’t take long. While aware of the procedure’s gravity, the overwhelmingly positive feedback I encountered solidified my resolve. Surprisingly, the recovery was less daunting than I had anticipated. Pain management was straightforward, and the process itself proved less harrowing than earlier medical interventions I had experienced, such as a vasectomy.
Living with a Penile Implant
The Natural Feel
Functionally, the implant mimics natural processes remarkably well. It reinstates a sense of normalcy, enabling a fulfilling intimate life. Of course, there are subtle differences—early-morning erections, for instance, seem intensified. The lack of certain sensations, likely a consequence of diabetes, extends the duration of intimacy, which has its own advantages. Though minor imperfections exist, such as the appearance of the penile tip, these haven’t posed significant concerns.
Partner Connection
I’ve always approached the topic with candidness. Whether discussing impotence or the implant, transparency has been pivotal. In my current relationship, I found it easier to discuss the latter, as it represents a proactive solution. Curiosity has often been the primary reaction, with partners appreciating both the honesty and the restored intimacy. For me, the implant has alleviated the anxiety surrounding such conversations.
Navigating Intimacy
Preparation and Interaction
Preparing for intimacy has become an engaging shared experience. My partner assists with operating the device, which adds a collaborative dimension to our connection. While mishaps, like mistakenly pressing the wrong area, occasionally occur, practice has enhanced both our comfort and enjoyment.
Post-Intimacy Adjustments
After intimacy, I’ve learned to delay deflating the implant until relaxation sets in, as this simplifies the process. With time and experimentation, I’ve developed strategies that work best for me, enhancing the overall experience.
